Sunday, September 17, 2006

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do you remember that scene from chicken little where they were talking about closure? i remember wondering about the importance of closure.. and to be honest i didn't have a clue. it never occured to me that such a thing as closure actually existed.

i've never been one for talking about things. i talk.. i talk a lot.. but that's a different thing altogether. if i say anything it's usually in the spur of the moment. i've never gone up to someone and said, "we need to talk." and i've never thought that talking about things could solve anything.. which i more or less still believe. but i've come to understand that maybe talking about things can sometimes be closure.

there was one incident from eons ago that i don't think i'll ever forget. "talking about things" then would probably actually SOLVE problems. but even then i wouldn't "talk about things". i couldn't bring myself to. maybe i would have chosen to do otherwise today.. but the first instinct usually shows what kind of person you really are inside. anyway that incident came and went.. without any kind of talk. it got forgotten by most.. and i proved to myself that talks are pretty useless. the problem just dissipated and needed no "solution".. and it definitely didn't need a closure.

but as i said.. recently i've started thinking differently about talks and closures. sometimes (just sometimes) some things need closure. some things can hinder you from moving on. you might not realise it.. its memory might be hidden in the recesses of your mind.. and you might even think that it's over and done with. but then a day comes when it might resurface.. and you realise that it's been an invisible chain all along.

i've always felt that talking about things is an awkward business. you lay everything out on the table and allow someone else to see you for who you are. there's no more hiding behind maybe's and guesswork.. you become vulnerable. once it's spoken there's no more denying that you can do. (that's why celebrities are always so adverse to admitting their love relationships to the media. even if they break up one day, they can always say that they've never said they were ever together anyway.) but some things, i believe, might warrant such sacrifice. ha. though personally i would lay out as few cards as possible.. and under a layer of gauze if i can.

it's things that are vague, things that are left hanging, things that you could only guess at, that need closure. it's stories not concluded, chapters not closed, sentences not completed, that need closure. closure's the missing full stop that's needed to move on to the next sentence.

l'avance at 1:49 PM

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